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UPCOMING EVENTS

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The Secret Sexual Basement: The Illumination Workshop

Coming in June

Deceptive, Compartmentalized, Sexual/Relational Realities (DCSR), otherwise known as “secret sexual basements”, involve the victimization of others through deceptive sexuality and patterns of psychological, emotional, and relational abuse. The DST Model proposes that compulsive-entitled sexuality (CES) and integrity-abuse disorder (IAD) enable individuals to behave in ways that are abusive by preventing their partners from being able to have an accurate knowledge of the truth in their relationship. Hence, partners are unable to respond in healthy ways. This process leads to significant traumatic symptoms and injuries for both partners in the relationship and their family members. The goal of this workshop is to illuminate the problem, gain understanding of the traumatic impact, and learn new ways to stop the abuse and cultivate healing for all involved.

Women have described the aftermath of a discovery or disclosure of a secret sexual/relational basement as an atomic bomb explosion, leaving them and their children severely injured and traumatized. Providing truth, creating safety, and rebuilding trust are 3 necessary components for the victims and the relationships to heal and thrive.  This workshop is designed to help men do that better. In this workshop you will learn:

1.      The differences between sympathy, empathy, and compassion

2.      How the 3 denials of responsibility that destroy hope

3.     How gender shaping affects the way you engage her pain

4.     Tools to better engage her pain by providing truth, creating safety, and rebuilding trust with compassion

Christ Centered Workshop for Men: Rebuilding Trust Through Compassion

Coming in June

The Secret Sexual Basement: The Illumination Workshop; April 19 - 21, 2024
Apr
19
to Apr 21

The Secret Sexual Basement: The Illumination Workshop; April 19 - 21, 2024

This in-person workshop provides 16 hours of psychoeducation and group discussion on the components of deceptive sexuality that cause traumatic injuries for all involved. Participants will learn about and integrate the concepts of Integrity Abuse and Entitlement - new concepts that put language to the emotional, psychological, and relational trauma created by Secret Sexual Basements. Our goal is to eliminate the problem, experience the impact on self and others, and learn new ways to stop the bleeding.

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The Secret Sexual Basement: The Illumination Workshop; February 23 - 25, 2024
Feb
23
to Feb 25

The Secret Sexual Basement: The Illumination Workshop; February 23 - 25, 2024

This in-person workshop provides 16 hours of psychoeducation and group discussion on the components of deceptive sexuality that cause traumatic injuries for all involved. Participants will learn about and integrate the concepts of Integrity Abuse and Entitlement - new concepts that put language to the emotional, psychological, and relational trauma created by Secret Sexual Basements. Our goal is to eliminate the problem, experience the impact on self and others, and learn new ways to stop the bleeding.

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The Secret Sexual Basement: The Illumination Workshop; November 10th to 12th
Nov
10
to Nov 12

The Secret Sexual Basement: The Illumination Workshop; November 10th to 12th

This in-person workshop provides 16 hours of psychoeducation and group discussion on the components of deceptive sexuality that cause traumatic injuries for all involved. Participants will learn about and integrate the concepts of Integrity Abuse and Entitlement - new concepts that put language to the emotional, psychological, and relational trauma created by Secret Sexual Basements. Our goal is to eliminate the problem, experience the impact on self and others, and learn new ways to stop the bleeding.

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The Secret Sexual Basement: The Illumination Workshop; October 13th - 15th
Oct
13
to Oct 15

The Secret Sexual Basement: The Illumination Workshop; October 13th - 15th

This in-person workshop provides 16 hours of psychoeducation and group discussion on the components of deceptive sexuality that cause traumatic injuries for all involved. Participants will learn about and integrate the concepts of Integrity Abuse and Entitlement - new concepts that put language to the emotional, psychological, and relational trauma created by Secret Sexual Basements. Our goal is to eliminate the problem, experience the impact on self and others, and learn new ways to stop the bleeding.

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The Secret Sexual Basement: The Illumination Workshop September 8th, 9th, &10th
Sep
8
to Sep 10

The Secret Sexual Basement: The Illumination Workshop September 8th, 9th, &10th

This in-person workshop provides 16 hours of psychoeducation and group discussion on the components of deceptive sexuality that cause traumatic injuries for all involved. Participants will learn about and integrate the concepts of Integrity Abuse and Entitlement - new concepts that put language to the emotional, psychological, and relational trauma created by Secret Sexual Basements. Our goal is to eliminate the problem, experience the impact on self and others, and learn new ways to stop the bleeding.

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The Secret Sexual Basement: The Illumination Workshop August 4th-6th
Aug
4
to Aug 6

The Secret Sexual Basement: The Illumination Workshop August 4th-6th

This in-person workshop provides 16 hours of psychoeducation and group discussion on the components of deceptive sexuality that cause traumatic injuries for all involved. Participants will learn about and integrate the concepts of Integrity Abuse and Entitlement - new concepts that put language to the emotional, psychological, and relational trauma created by Secret Sexual Basements. Our goal is to eliminate the problem, experience the impact on self and others, and learn new ways to stop the bleeding.

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The Secret Sexual Basement: The Illumination Workshop July 7th-9th
Jul
7
to Jul 9

The Secret Sexual Basement: The Illumination Workshop July 7th-9th

This workshop provides 16 hours of psychoeducation and group discussion on the components of deceptive sexuality that cause traumatic injuries for all involved. Participants will learn about and integrate the concepts of Integrity Abuse and Entitlement - new concepts that put language to the emotional, psychological, and relational trauma created by Secret Sexual Basements. Our goal is to eliminate the problem, experience the impact on self and others, and learn new ways to stop the bleeding.

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Christmas Truce
Dec
17

Christmas Truce

Please join us LIVE on Youtube on Thursday, December 17th at 7:00 pm Pacific Time where we will be discussing how to navigate a Christmas truce by cultivating relational peace amidst internal chaos. This is an interactive, Christ-centered discussion on relational trauma, and we look forward to hearing your comments and questions. Register here.

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